It is not being conservative to honour and respect the traditions and wisdom of the past, it is mature. It is not being liberal to question those traditions and that wisdom, it is mature. It is not being fundamentalist to have deep commitments that you honour, it is mature. It […]
[Apologies for the dormancy of my blog – I hope to give it a kickstart later in summer. But for now a book review]: As someone who has, for years, taught human sexuality at a university with many students who grew up with Kiss Dating Goodbye and virginity pledges, I […]
Tapping into the right kind of energy to motivate and encourage our engagement with the world is crucial. If we’re to avoid the “dark energy” that I wrote about last week, without running out of steam all together, we’ll need to tap into something life-giving and energizing. There was a […]
For better or worse, I’ve been congratulating myself for waiting a couple of months to write this. Waiting has felt necessary in the same way that some of us have learned that it’s better to wait overnight before hitting send on that email response to something emotional. As someone who […]
It is so tempting to give up on religion. When faced with the frustrating, if not horrific, ways in which religions are exploited in order to dehumanize others, maintain power and control, and repress our own inner chaos, it’s no surprise that many have tossed their faith on the rubbish […]
The main reason I call myself a humanist* is because I believe God is too. Humanists put a high value on the freedom, beauty and experience of humanity, and this was true long before religious violence and oppression (especially in Europe after the Reformation) drove such a huge wedge between […]
So, now that I’ve introduced maturity and explained why I believe development toward maturity would be better described by “facets” (that all co-exist at the same time) rather than “stages” (that one moves through in a consistent order), it’s time for me to explain how this co-existence works. At the […]
For many years I had always appreciated and occasionally taught James Fowler’s stages of faith development (and still do). But one day in my late forties, I saw some key elements suddenly fall apart. I thought back to how, in my early twenties when I first read about these stages, […]
Summary The Mosaic of Maturing Spirituality model is based on facets as opposed to stages. This is to shift the focus from an expectation that we go step by step through predictable stages toward an alternate understanding that we have a variety of “facets” that are all simultaneously present in […]
Summary 1. The important part of maturing is not how fast we go or how far we get but that we keep moving (or pause briefly enough that we can get started again). 2. Fear can make us resist the complexity of the world, or the pace of change can […]